IF WE EXAMINE OUR OWN ANGERS…
WE MAY DISCOVER THEIR ROOTS
BURIED IN A TANGLE OF FEAR

BE IT REAL OR IMAGINED, FEAR IS THE FATHER… OF MUCH… IF NOT MOST… OF OUR PAINS

I would have likely never noticed this to be true or important left on my own. However, someone shared their experience based wisdom with me. I thought it sounded like something weak and BS

I don’t think I would ever have identified or understood these reactions of mine without some information which, I definitely did not have.

What happened was a kind honest person exposing their own flaws and feelings shared how they liked to try and improve their own character and simply shared their experience… about what they had found to be helpful to them. I had no idea the power of these sneaky fears… of mine… like say…

I might be afraid to not be thought of as tough… so therefore I always fight… but always still scared… no… not scared of the fighting… but afraid of NOT being tough or more important… being perceived as tough… The fear of appearances and image management. “Nothing to fear but fear itself” is not a bad little jingle.

Having this information makes it possible for me… to see the fear(s) behind each anger.. Often I thought I was the tough guy and running the show. I have to laugh at myself now in the mirror… seeing how wrong I was. Anger… is fear’s makeup… it’s mask disguises our fears. (which are mostly imagined) I discovered it can be helpful to simply see our specific fears behind our anger.